“Don’t tell me what to do”
Ok here is the thing… I often tell people what to do. I am a fixer. It feels great when I can solve a problem, ease another person’s concerns, and as a result reduce my own discomfort. The problem with telling people what to do and fixing their problems is this: you don’t give them […]
The power of language
Have you ever taken the time to notice how you speak about yourself or your difficulties? You probably say something along the lines of, I am a man/woman, I am a father/mother, I am an accountant, I am happy, I am depressed, etc. We have been taught to use the word “I” when speaking about […]
Five reasons why you should talk about your problems
Many clients often come to therapy saying “I’m not sure if talking is going to help”. This is an excellent point which I think deserves to be thought about not only in therapy, but also in the context of our everyday lives. Why should we talk about our problems? Are there any benefits to doing […]
“You get what you pay for”
Last week I flew to Stansted Airport after a short holiday with my family. As we got off the airplane we saw a fellow passenger, a young mum, trying to figure out how she was going to get up several flights of stairs with her child in a pram. She managed to call out to […]